Autism And Unemployment: Conclusion

In this blog, I will sum up why we struggle with employment, cover some things I forgot to add or missed. I also will share the results of my survey that I asked some autistic adults to take. I will sum up the top hurdles I feel most adults with autism have with getting a job. Remember, none of us are the same. It depends on the person.

The Application

The questionnaire that most applications have is definitely a struggle for some autistic adults. The questions can be worded to where the person doesn’t understand what the question is asking. If you don’t pass, they won’t consider you. Sometimes we have trouble makes decisions and most questionnaires are decision-based depending on the company. You will fail if you mark too many questions as ‘unsure.’ Also, for most fast-food places, you need references. We have trouble making or keeping friends, therefore we won’t have anyone to put down on the application. I applied to Culver’s last year because I had no references, they didn’t call me back. And fast-food places hire anyone. If Culver’s required references, then McDonald’s, Wendys etc most likely will require references. Therefore, we can’t get hired at places that do questionnaires or that require references. Example, my friend needed references to enlist in the Marines, he had some friends, teachers from school, and my grandparents. Maybe more even. Most of the friends I had from school left me due to my mental illness. They unfriended me on Facebook or blocked me. I did nothing wrong so I assume they left me due to my depression and anxiety. Moral of the story is he had people to put down, I don’t have that. Also, judgment is passed during the resume screening if the client has gaps in their employment or has had several jobs but only held them for a short time. The person could have been qualified to the tee for those jobs, but got fired due to complaints about their behaviors, for not doing the job ‘right,’ and so on.

The Interview

Most ASD people can’t get past the interview. This can be caused by lack of interaction like eye contact. We struggle with that while a non-autistic doesn’t. Also, anxiety is a key factor, I can practice 100 times and my anxiety will bite me. In my blog post about why I quit being an aspiring musician, I told you how my anxiety for playing for people was so bad it cause me to do terribly at the solo and ensemble contest, even though I prepared ahead of time. This can happen to us at a job interview and we don’t get the job as a result. Someone said their granddaughter was more than qualified for the jobs she applied for but didn’t get it due to her anxiety and sensory issues. We will take the questions too literally, therefore not giving the appropriate answer. They may ask you why you quit your last job or why you were fired. The person will answer honestly. However, the answer may not be the correct one.

Can’t Hold Down The Job

Customer complaints are a major reason why we struggle to hold down a job. As I stated, we do not like physical contact from strangers. Customers can complain that they did not get greeted. Little does anyone know the employee is autistic and struggles with social interactions, is socially anxious and cannot communicate like the neurotypicals. The boss gets too many complaints and fires the employee. I am sure if you get fired from so many jobs it will only make it harder to find another. Another thing is, when you give us a task, you need to provide more context. ‘Take out the trash at 3.’ ‘Stack the chicken vertically.’ You also have to remind us because with so many thoughts running through, it’s very easy to forget. Most employers will fail to do this and will get mad that the employee did not do the job. Some of us are afraid to come out about our autism in fear of being treated badly or fired. It’s also hard for us to adapt to unexpected changes, you would think it would be hard for us to adapt to a constantly changing schedule. Also, the job can call you in on your off days if they are too understaffed, say the person planned to recharge and they get called in. I can imagine something so unexpected would give them anxiety.

Survey Results

I surveyed some people to get an understanding of what they struggle with on a job.

I asked if the person has ever had a job, these are the results

Survey says more has had a job than the ones who haven’t. This doesn’t mean the ones who have worked didn’t struggle. I added this question in later tho.

I asked are you in work. More are employed than unemployed. But the ones who are unemployed still take up over have of the average unemployment
for autistic adults, which is 80%
For the people who work, these are their jobs. Remember, everyone on the spectrum is different. While this jobs fit the survey clients, may not fit someone else.
For those who are unemployed, these are their struggles. Of course, some struggle with the interview.
I asked how many jobs the client was fired from or quit from, these are the results
I asked how long the person was at the job before they were fired or quit
I asked if anyone has struggled with the interview. In fact, a good chunk of clients had trouble with the interview.
I asked people to explain their struggles with a job interview. This is what I got back.
I asked people who they were treated at the workplace. More were treated badly.
I asked why do you think ASD people struggle with employment
Here is part 2 of the responses
I asked people what jobs they think is best for an autistic adults
I asked people why they can’t hold down a job.

I got different results out of this survey. It’s clear to say that there are a series of things that make it hard for us to get or keep a job. Some of us go through bullying at school and just cannot go through it again on a job. I also think even if there is some autism awareness, you will be judged on someone else’s standards because your challenges are different or not talked about much.

At the moment, I am trying to get disability, I have trouble explaining how my autism keeps me from working. I can’t explain it verbally, I thought I try explaining it this way. I can refer to the results of my survey as a guild. If someone, where to say ‘how does autism affect your work ability?’ I can say, “well I made a blog post on this to better express myself, I explain how the structure of the job will make it hard to function, ex being around a lot of people in a busy environment.’ And so on. Also, some people like to say ‘get a job,’ when someone says they need money. Little does the person know that our struggles with getting or keeping a job are as hard as trying to tightrope walk without a net at the bottom. We simply cannot ‘get a job’ like you(neurotypical people) can. You don’t have the struggles that we have. You don’t have sensory limitations like us. You don’t struggle with socializing like us. You don’t struggle with the job interview like we do. You aren’t targets of bullying like us. You can work in a busy space, we can’t. We are not you. We are different. Our journey is harder than yours. The unemployment for us will not change until there are more educated people and more jobs for us without a college degree being needed.

I will start writing some eBooks to better express myself. I have one that’s already out to educate on how we struggle to find or keep a job.

This is the cover.

My book ‘Autism and Unemployment: Our Journey is Harder’ is now out. Get your copy here. Feel free to let me know what you think about the book. Your helpful feedback will make my next book better!

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My Open Letter To A Future Programmer, Freelance Client etc

I go by Jazz Williams, I don’t like to use my real, full name sometimes. I want to bring awareness of how hard it is for us adults with autism to find or keep a job. I surveyed several people to get an idea of their struggles with employment to give you an understanding. I made a 3 part blog series on each hurdle that gets in our way with finding or keeping the job. You can find part 1 here. That part talks about how the application process makes it hard for us. Part 2 can be found here.  This part talks about the interview process. Part 3 can be found here. This part talks about how we can struggle to keep the job. You can learn about my struggles here. 

A Little Bit About Myself

I am 22 years old, I will be 23 on the 31st of December. I make YouTube videos, art, blogs. I have never had a job due to my autism. I have struggled to find a job with the settings that I need. I need something where I am not around a lot of people, where there isn’t too much commotion around me, where I can go at my own pace. The list can go on. I live in Chicago, IL and none of the jobs near me have the settings that I need. I have tried to apply for several jobs but never heard back. For better performance and so I can function, I NEED a job with these settings. Retail, fast-food jobs do not provide the structure most autistic adults need. It’s harder now for younger people with no experience to get a job. Most companies will hire teens and students because they’re cheaper and can’t work many hours. I am not speaking for everyone. I went through a process that helped people with disabilities get jobs, however, they did not work with many people with intellectual disabilities like mine. This is my guess since they had an employee invalidate my autism because of ‘how I talk’ so I figured that they don’t have many people who know about autism. I am trying to get disability and have been denied twice. There are a lot of bold statements that social security makes when it comes to certain disabilities. I begged and pleaded for my mom to let me try finding some work from home jobs, but she will not understand it’s better for my mental health, I talk about that in this blog. I explain in this blog also about my struggles with employment.

How I can Benefit You

If you are a programmer, you can hire me to test your game, app etc and leave feedback. One thing you should know if you need to tell me what you want me to look out for when leaving feedback. If you are a game developer, I can react to your game trailer on my YouTube Channel to help get people into the game. Or I can Freelance write for your game, app etc. You must give me a rough draft on what you want me to cover in my article, otherwise, I will think it can be about anything and it may not be what you want. You must give me enough time to complete your request or I will get overwhelmed. If you need an article, render etc, you must let me know in enough time. I have written a book about autism to give you an understanding of our struggles with jobs.

We are never given a chance on a regular job. We are judged on Neurotypical standards. A Neurotypical is someone who doesn’t have autism or any other learning disability. Employers reprimand us for behaviors we can’t control. We are fired for a number of reasons related to our autism. I am asking if you can give us a chance and work it us since regular employers don’t want to.

~Jazz 

Autism And Constructive Criticism

I feel I REALLY need to make this blog so people get a better understanding of me. I am sure not everyone follows my vlog channel, where I make videos about autism. I am sure no one from either of my channels follows my blog. I am tired of arguing. I am tired of taking their feedback the wrong and they think I can’t take criticism. It’s common for people on the autism spectrum do not handle certain types of criticism. It could be a low self-esteem thing as well.

You remember when your parents tell you it’s not what you say but how you say it? I want you to apply that here. But in a different context.  I need my feedback in a different context. Like one time, I had a channel trailer, I was going to make a new one. I had gotten a new phone with better audio and picture quality and wanted to make a trailer with my new equipment. I was thinking about how I wanna do it. Before I had a chance to reshoot my trailer, a viewer watched the old one. This guy said the start of the video wasn’t engaging and he clicked away fast. This is the hardest thing about doing YouTube is keeping people on your videos. I took it to heart. Now if he said ‘avoid XYZ’ or ‘start your trailer like this’ or ‘you should add more X in your trailers,’ I would have gotten a better understanding. I took it as he was just being mean because I welcomed people to the channel at the start. I had no understanding of what wasn’t engaging about introducing yourself.  If he wasn’t so fast to brag about how fast he clicked off the video, he could have given me tips on how to open my trailer since I planned on remaking it anyway.

There are some words that are ‘trigger words’ to me because people used them at me in a mean, derogatory way. This is also common with autistic people ( or even anyone). Like the word ‘annoying’ is my trigger word because kids at school always called me annoying when all I wanted to do was be their friend. Neurotypicals find us annoying like where asking for a damn kidney. All we want is a friend! So if you write on my video ‘when you do X it’s annoying.’ I WILL take it personally. I will take it better when you say ‘ when you do X it breaks the flow, do Y instead.’ When you leave out key details in your feedback, I will misunderstand and will take it the wrong way. This has happened more times than I can count. We are sensitive, it’s not our fault. It’s out of our control. We are always scorned because we cannot take certain feedback, little do they know, we are different from them. Our brains take things differently.

As to leaving out details, this also doesn’t help me. On my first or second reaction video. A YouTube EXPERT said the camera angle was ‘dodgy.’ It’s like hiring someone to build you a house but not leave the blueprints on what you want your house to look like. I had literally ZERO clues as what the guy was talking about. Vs if he said the camera angle is dodgy and linked a video and said ‘the so and so the mark is what I saw in your video and the X mark is what it needs to look like.’ I am saying if there is no visual example because I learn visually, I will not understand what you want me to do, fix etc. When in doubt, if I can’t see it, I don’t understand. It’s really not hard to find a video on what you’re talking about and link it to me.

I also mentioned in the why I quit band blog how I took the judge’s harsh feedback to heart. Before you pull the criticism card, telling someone they’re bad is not constructive. Telling them the areas they are weak in, what they need to fix etc is constructive. Had the judge told the director the areas I need to improve on and he was willing to work with me, that would have been the better alternative.

When you give us feedback, you need to be direct ( eg the font you used for your thumbnail is hard to read, add the so and so effects to make it easier to see). Avoid phrases like ‘it’s annoying when you do X.’ Avoid harsh words. These can scar our self-esteem. You can be honest without being harsh. People just choose to be jerks. If you tell me I didn’t engage you as a viewer, sorry to tell you, you’re not my target viewer then. I know my subs, they subbed because they like my style. If you don’t like it, I can’t stop you.

I also wrote a book about autism and how we struggle to find and keep a job. I wrote this to educate the many struggles that we have. That we cannot just ‘get a job’ like someone without autism can. Get your copy here. When you buy the book, you will get a shout out on my IG stories.

Just remember that you have to approach your feedback differently for us.

Autism And Unemployment: Getting The Job But Can’t Keep It

This blog will be about the autistic individual landing the job, but not being able to keep it. There are a lot of reasons why autistic adults struggle to keep a job. Sometimes it has to do with the employer’s or co-workers’ attitude towards the person. It’s a sad world where someone is ridiculed for being different. Or not given a chance due to their differences. 

So you nailed the interview after so many fails attempts. You get the call and you got the job. There are still more difficulties along the line. Some ASD people are scared to disclose their autism in fear they will be treated differently or fired. And it has happened to many ASD people.

You have training for your job. The boss’s method is too difficult for you to understand. You need to see someone do the action to better understand the job, depending on the job. However, no one has the time nor patience to do this. You may need more clarity on the tasks you are given. We need a timeframe when giving a request, otherwise, we will think it’s not important. The boss does not do this when he/she gives you your assignment(s). The person does not do the job the way the boss wanted to and the boss gets mad. You’re reprimanded for taking too long to understand the job, it’s not your fault you need a different method or take longer on some things than everyone else. You also get yelled at for ‘working too slow.’ But you cannot help that your brain will only allow you to work at a slower pace.

The customers can also feel uncomfortable around the person and report it to the manager. ASD people do not like certain approaches like hugs, handshakes etc. Some ASD people are non-verbal. The person has to shake hands with the customers. But that type of interaction makes the ASD person uncomfortable. Also, most ASD people are socially anxious so they may not interact with people. If too many people report the person, chances are the manager will fire them. Instead of coming up with an alternate method of greeting people like waving, fist bump, holding a sign etc.

In some cases, an ASD person will not be aware that their tone of voice sounds harsh. They can answer the customer and if the customer thinks that their tone is harsh, chances are they will report it. People tend to report if their experience wasn’t the best. This is usually why so many autistic adults struggle to hold down a job due to consumer complaints. It all depends on what the customer is complaining about and how many complain about the employee.

ASD people will miss nonverbal cues like body language, facial expression. Of course, this will be a problem depending on the job the person has. For example, when I was in school, I was in a group, a girl was explaining how she heard about kids doing something very inappropriate in a classroom. I was not understanding her explanation. So I asked her when did it happen ( eg  5 o’clock). She was annoyed when I kept asking her. Because autism prevents me from reading social cues, I did not pick up she was annoyed and to stop asking her. She made a facial expression which I could not read. Maybe she would have gotten to it. How can I survive in a job if I can’t read nonverbal cues? People don’t always come out and say ‘I’m sad, I’m annoyed’ etc.

Sometimes we may ask you follow up questions to confirm we understand you, however, this can annoy a customer, employer, co-worker etc. The idiot lady who said I wasn’t autistic picked up on this. But she refused to believe I was autistic due to her dumb ass excuse, so of course, she didn’t understand people with autism may ask a question again. We don’t do it to annoy you, we do it to make sure that we heard you because we tend to misunderstand. She said to ‘write it down.’ How dumb can she be? Not everyone carries a notepad around all damn day!  Or they can forget to take the notepad out, forget it at home etc. Imagine if someone wants to know where the bread is and you have to pull out your notes to find where you wrote it down or stored it.

People with autism tend to Stim, which can vary. Co-workers or customers can feel annoyed by this behavior. I do this behavior and my mom brought up a scenario of the complaints of my stimming being brought to the bosses attention and the boss telling me. Saying ‘they just have to deal with it, this helps me calm down when anxious’ may get the person fired. This is why those fridget spinners(affiliate link) were invented. But people turned it into a fashion trend and mocked people who really needed it. Teachers ended up banning them from the class which hurts us, the people who ACTUALLY need it. 

Sometimes the employer can refuse to provide accommodations for the person. Ex Tom requires more context when giving him a task. The person ends up quitting because they cannot function on the job without these modifications. 

The environment for the job can cause problems. Ex an ASD person may not be able to function in a fast-paced environment. A person cannot function being around a lot of people.

If you have been fired from so many jobs and wasn’t at any of them for at least 3 months, this can put off a potential employer. 3 months is usually the trial period for the person to determine whether or not they are fit for the job. Say the person only held a job for a week at a time, I can imagine that being off-putting to an employer.

Sarah has been fired from her 15th job, because of her autism. This will make it impossible for her to get another job because employers will be put off if they see that she has had 15 jobs but was only at the jobs for 2 months or less. She was more than qualified for all those jobs, but the employer refused to accept her learning differences, yelled at her for working too slow, or yelled at her for not doing the job the way the boss wanted her to. She is sent countless rejection emails without even given a chance to explain. I believe they ask you why were you fired from your last job at the interview or why you quit, even then, the person may give the wrong answer and it costs them the job.

To sum up what I have talked about, the interview is the major road block in our quest to get a job. And several instances are hurdles when keeping the job. I want to know your story! You can be a guest blogger!

There are a lot of reasons why a person with autism struggles to find or keep a job. I also need guest bloggers. If you are autistic or have a son, daughter etc with autism. Write your employment story. Be sure to cover

-are you in work, struggles with finding work ( eg getting past the interview) how many jobs were you fired or quit from, how long you were at the jobs, how you were treated at the workplace, what made it hard for you to hold a job. Or anything you feel is needed. You can write it on a TXT doc and e-mail me your article jazz.williams41@gmail.com. Be sure to send me any photos and links you want in your blog and any social media pages you use. I will tag you when the blog goes live.

I will make a more detailed blog post about this in case some don’t read the whole thing.

These guest blog post will give a programmer or whoever see this a better understanding. Also, please complete this survey. It will take a few minutes. This will also make my thesis easier. I have also written an eBook to showcase how we struggle with getting and keeping a job. Get your copies here. Feel free to let me know what you think.

I hope this moment can get even a few independent programmers to hire us. Think about how happy we will be if you are willing to give us a chance, make it work for us etc. 

Why Autistic Adults Struggle With Employment

I made a part one, click here to read it if you want. In part 1, I explained my struggles with finding employment and I am trying to work towards self-employment because I feel that’s my only hope. This part talks about the struggles that most autistic people have with finding or keeping their jobs. Remember, everyone is different. Let me ask you a question, why are so many autistic people struggling with employment? There could be a lot of reasons. I will explain the things that I feel causes autistics problems with employment. I always like to look for sources to back my claims, I found this blog post about how autistic young adults are more likely to be unemployed than people with other disabilities.

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What Makes Employment A Challenge For ASD People?

The one thing that can make it hard for ASD individuals is the job setting. Everyone with autism is different. Different people will require different settings. If there are crowds, that can be discomforting for an ASD person. Like Walmart, they are always busy, I think Walmart will be horrible for some ASD people due to how busy and fast-paced it is. Some people may live too far from a job that has their setting. I feel the individual will perform better if they are in a setting that is not crowded or that doesn’t have a lot of people, whichever setting they require.

If the person lacks the skills for the job, that can also get in the way. Autism affects the way a person communicates, how they socialize etc. If the job calls for them to have good social skills, this is where it stops most likely. The inability to detect social cues is a major one. The person may not know how to interact with other customers or have difficulty helping the customer depending on the need. As most ASD people are visual learners and just explaining it will not be enough for them to understand. They may have to actually see it in order to understand. When people give me feedback on Youtube or Blogging, it’s completely useless if they do not provide an example w/a video on what they are talking about. If they talked about the picture quality looking off, I would not understand what they mean unless I see a video about it or a comparison photo of what they are talking about and what the picture should look like.

Most autistics are judged because they communicate differently. Like for example, they may be better at text communication than face-to-face. Or they may pick up how you feel talking to you on the phone, where they can hear the person’s voice or in person versus in a message, social media statues etc. Some people do not know there is more to autism than meets the eye. Some ASD people do not have fine motor skills ( aka clumsy) and this can be a problem if they are handling something fragile. Sometimes, I am rough and don’t realize it. I do not realize if I am slamming something or throwing something. What if they do not realize their actions on a job and the employer has second thoughts? They also can be forced into a situation where they are unable to think fast or that makes them uncomfortable ( eg working with a lot of noise, fluorescent lights etc)

How Interviews Stop An ASD Person In Their Tracks

The dreaded interview, I am willing to bet most ASD people do not make it passed the interview. I feel the interview is the last step for a few reasons. ASD people tend to fidget, stutter, look around when nervous, anxious, also known as Stimming. The interviewer can pick up on this and count it against the interviewee.

Autistic individuals tend to not make eye contact, the interviewer will reckon the person is not listening. They may not make direct contact to avoid distractions. Like getting distracted by someone or something that passes by. So they don’t look directly at you to avoid getting sidetracked.
Another thing I feel will stump the person is the question ‘tell me about yourself,’ and the person will probably say ‘what you want to know?’ This could also give the interviewer a second thought. Or they could take the question too literally.  You know when you start a new school year, the teacher may ask the class to tell everyone about themselves and you will respond with your hobbies or where you’re from. Imagine when the interviewer asks this question, he/she wants to know how their skills/experience makes them qualify for the job or their previous employment. However, because autistic people are a bit different, they could respond with ‘ my favorite color is pink, I like animals etc’ I am not saying this is the case for everyone. I am saying this may be the case if they are not aware of what the question calls for.

If the person discloses their autism, this most likely stops the interviewer from hiring them. They may hide it in fear of being denied the job and gets fired for their dishonesty. When I went through a process that I thought would help me find a job, the lady did a little mock interview and I stumped it at this question. The lady said how I answered the question has no relevance to the job. If that’s the case, I can’t get a job even if I wanted to because of that question. Another thing is the interviewer may ask you your weaknesses. Say, your weaknesses are what’s required for the job, I  would bet the interviewer will deny the person. This blog has an explanation of why autistic people struggle with job interviews. Another thing is an unexpected question the interviewer may ask that the person was not prepared for.

Not Properly Communicating With The Person Can Cause Issues

Another big thing is miscommunication/vague instructions. When it comes to autistics, you have to add more context when giving them commands or explaining something. When I follow tutorials on YouTube, it has to be step by step and the person has to be talking and going slowly. If they go too fast, I could miss a step. There will be a disconnect if the employer does not confirm that the person is aware of the situation. Most likely, if there is something important happening, they may e-mail or text you. If it’s a long message, the person will probably skim the e-mail. If the important information is not sticking out, chances are, the person will miss it. When my mom tells me to do something, if she does not tell me she wants it done now, I will reckon she wants it done later. And then she gets mad that I didn’t do it when she asked. This can cause problems on a job if the person is told to do something but It wasn’t clear as to how it needed to be done or when it needs to be done. There are many times where my mom told me to do things but didn’t make it clear what else needed to be done. I feel this is another major reason why autistics struggle to keep a job. Most of the time the employer will not be clear on how they want the task to be done and if the person does not do it how the employer wanted this can cause problems.

Autistics Have Trouble Filtering Information They Receive

Also, ASD people have difficulting filtering the information they get. Think of it like having envelopes for each set of info. Take a normal person’s brain and an autistic brain. When the normal person reads the long e-mail, their brain knows what envelope to store the information. However, the autistic brain will not know where to store all the information. When I went through a process that I thought will help me find a job, I met with the job coach privately before the club. She explained how the club will work. Because my brain could not filter all of the info I was given, I missed a lot of things. For instance, I missed when she mentioned you attend the club until you find a job and what I needed to do. I missed when she said I had to apply for jobs and how often I needed to get in touch with her. Because most likely she/the program does not work with many ASD people, she did not realize she needed to recap and confirm I heard her. This could happen on a job if the employer were to call a meeting and explain something really important and my brain cannot filter a lot of information at once. When you are giving someone with autism a lot of information, confirm that they heard you. However, most employers will fail to do this when giving them the tasks for the day especially if it’s verbally. When you recap, make it short and sweet.

Autistic People DO NOT Like Unexpected Changes

I didn’t mention this in the video, but changes can also make employment difficult. Autistics like routine and repetition. Say the person usually stocks shelves. And say it’s a hectic day and the person is needed for a different position( eg cashiers are needed). They are overwhelmed and anxious about the sudden change and there is no time to adapt to the change. If the employer picks up on this, they will have second thoughts on someone acting like that over changes. This is why we need education about autism. When there is no education and understanding, this makes things difficult for us. Let them know sooner if you can. Or mention it during training like ‘keep in mind you may be needed for a different spot if we are busy and understaffed.’ Or if it’s their day off and they planned to use it to recharge, for an autistic, socializing is exhausting. And they get called into work. They could have a sensory problem. A series of factors can play a role when something unexpected comes up or if they’re told at the last minute.

Discrimination 

Closed-minded employers can also make a persons stay at the job short, or stop them in their tracks. Autistic adults are not hired after disclosing their autism or fired upon disclosing it.  This person was fired upon telling his/her boss they were on the autism spectrum after the employer picked up on the traits tied to autism. Also if an individual had several jobs but was only there for a short time, this can also go against them for potential employers. If they only were at the job less than 2 months, this will raise questions and can give second thoughts without needing the interview.

If the person is not moving fast enough on the job, this can also make their stay at the job short. Which is why we need jobs where ASD people can go at their own pace without being bash for ‘moving too slow.’  Some places care more about how fast you are than the quality. I would rather wait 30 min for my food at a restaurant and it’s well-prepared than for the workers to rush and slap it together and it comes out bad. Not everyone has this mindset. Also, the person could be poorly trained and get punished for their poor performance.

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Workplace discrimination among autistics is real and it’s happening. If someone’s ability is limited due to a disability, that is not their fault. No one asks for a disability. Firing someone for this makes them feel like dirt. Why not accommodate them instead of just firing? People with autism are brighter than you think, you wouldn’t know because you underestimated them.

The Solution

This is why we need jobs for autistic people. Maybe hire someone to test your product and give feedback. Create a job they can do. Need to promote your company, hire them to write an article/blog about your company. Instead of just not wanting to try because the person is autistic, find ways to make it work. Come on, it’s not that hard. I also feel as stated in part 1, self-employment is better. I am in a group for autistics, this one guy said he kept getting fired so he makes money from his art. Start your own website, sell something that will benefit the reader. If you are a game developer, hire someone to test your game and leave feedback. Even if you charge 15 bucks, they will have some money in their pocket/bank account. If these employers don’t want to make it work for us aspies, game developers, product developers etc step up and do the job! Do what the employers wouldn’t do. If America or your country won’t create jobs for us, we have to make our own jobs. When one door closes, another one opens. If employers can’t put in the effort to make it work for us, web developers, game developers etc, step up and take charge! Be heroes, be Aspie role models!

I also have a video on the topic, so feel free to check out the video if you want. I also wrote a book to showcase our struggles and to educate that it’s just tough for some people to find and keep a job. Get your copies here.

One Thing I don’t like is being Reprimanded(Autism Blog, Kinda..)

As a person who deals with autism, I can confirm that automatically reprimanding me will NOT help. I will name a few instances where I was reprimanded and I just didn’t know.  I cannot find the definition, but here is the word being used in a sentence. The committee reprimanded and censured him for his uncooperative attitude. I am saying that automatically jumping the gun just causes me anxiety verses calmy addressing the matter.

When you just jump the gun, on a person with autism, it will not end well without letting them know if they’d done something wrong. Most people with autism, children especially, they will not know most of the time what they are doing is wrong. It’s important you address it in a calming matter. I feel when it comes to ASD people, you should address what they have done wrong, but do so in a way so they understand. if you just start yelling, they will not understand why they are being yelled at or what they did wrong.

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My brain is different than yours. I see things differently than you. I don’t understand things the way you do. Automatically reprimanding me will just send me into anxiety. If I have no understanding of what I did wrong. I am going to name an instance where people instantly coming down on me but not explaining what I had done wrong didn’t help. One instance is, you know Facebook has that ‘on this day’ feature.

When you post something to your wall, it will remind you a year later. I had shared an autism post, educating people that autism doesn’t have a look. It had a collage of people who are autistic. My intentions were to spread awareness that not everything has a look, you cannot see autism. I shared it with an autism group I am no longer in, I will get into that. This person instantly jumps down my throat over the post. Calling it ‘inspiration porn.’ I had no idea what that meant. The only porn I know is like lewd stuff. NSFW stuff. So I told him there was no porn on the post. I would not post porn because there are children here and it’s against Facebook’s rules.

And one guy tagged someone I reckoned was an admin or mod of the group. I had literally no idea what was happening because it happened so fast.. I had no idea why this guy got upset over the post or why it upsets him. He jumps down my throat about those posts annoying him. How was I supposed to know?! You can’t expect to be in a large group and expect 10K+ people to know what upsets you. People act as though I am supposed to know everything in the whole wide world that upsets them. Rather people explaining to me why the post was bad or what was wrong with it, they reprimanded me. If the guy had of said ‘this post upsets me, here is why….’  that would have been better than automatically getting annoyed. I would have told him I did not make the post and needs to address his concerns to the guys who made the post if he was the only one complaining, the page admins probably would not have listened. You can’t expect everyone in the whole world to know what you don’t like. When I announced my exit from the group. The offendee mention learning from my mistake. How did I make a mistake? This guy chose to act like I am a mind reader and immediately lose his cool at me when he KNOWS that my brain is different and I don’t see things the same way. Most people know autistic people may not have the same views as you do. This guy didn’t know based on how he handled the situation.

He and everyone who commented may understand ‘inspiration porn’ but I didn’t. When I see ‘inspiration’ I see it as uplifting. Undertale inspired me to get into cosplaying. Undertale was Joe’s inspiration to get into music. Earthbound was Undertale’s inspiration. Had someone calmly, in a calm matter, explained to me why the post was wrong or at least why he didn’t like those posts, I would have understood. But everyone coming down on me because my different brain couldn’t understand the fault of the post didn’t help. Also, I wasn’t the original poster of the college, but everyone thought I made it. I exited the group if that’s how people act towards a fellow Aspie. If you’re aware someone has a disorder and you go ahead and do things you know won’t help, I don’t want to be in a group like that.  It’s not my fault my brain is wired differently. It’s not my fault if I don’t see things the same way you do. How to properly address whatever was done. Instead of immediately yelling at them first, start with what they did wrong.  Example ‘Joe, you forgot to flush the toilet, please try to remember to flush. Come up with something cool to help you remember.‘ Joe would respond better calmy addressing this issue than immediately going off because he didn’t flush the toilet.

Another instance I have is. I met this guy and didn’t realize he was old and dresses poorly. Because autism affects my ability to detect social cues, I was unable to detect this guy does not dress nicely and was too old for me. Also because I hardly met any guys.

The Backstory

My folks didn’t remind me the recycling can goes out. Because the blue can people run every other week, so it’s hard to remember when the can goes out. I had remembered after 10pm when I heard the neighbor bringing her can up front. So I went outside to take the can upfront. This guy spotted me, he was walking with someone I reckon was a friend. He was 2 houses away when he said something. He approached me in the driveway. I couldn’t get a clear vision of his face because it was dark and like 2 of the lights in the driveway weren’t working.

When I realized he was old but didn’t know how to process it.

I saw him a month later when I went to take out the trash, coincidentally. This time it was in broad daylight. I was shocked at his appearance. Kinda like how you would react when someone catfishes you online, and you meet the person face-to-face. Did he purposely choose the night time to spot me and entice me to like him?

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He looked old enough to be my dad. I’m thinking, why is a guy who looks old enough to be a dad hitting on me? I have no problem if you are a dad if you are 40-50 years old trying to hit on a person barely in their 30s, that is nasty.

When my mom caught wind

The second time he came by, my mom spied on us. In the basement, we have these windows you cannot see out of, but it has a little window you can open and see out of, like this. I reckon she looked through that window and heard and saw him.

As soon as I came in the door, she lost her shit. She started yelling at me right off the bat and I felt like I went into a mini panic attack. I was like ‘what did I do?’ I didn’t do it!’ She mad that an old dude is interested in a 22 yr/o. It’s not my fault old ass guy are into me! It’s not my fault guys who don’t dress nicely are interested in me! You best believe I want guys my age (26,27,28). She saw that he was sagging, but I could not see it because he wore long shirts. My mom does not like guys who sag. Point is, her going off like that didn’t help. Versus if she said, ‘I need to talk to you about that dude,’ in a calm voice.  I never met anyone, my age may I add. So I  don’t know how to go about things. You cannot blame me for being different. She kept holding against me when I told him I was socially anxious, for why I prefer text communication. My mom didn’t like the fact he’s looking for ladies on the street. Again, the way she flew off the handle made it look like it’s my fault old guys are into me. I didn’t ask to be different, I don’t want it. Chances are guys like can take advantage of you. They can use my inability to detect social cues against me. Having autism can be dangerous sometimes and people don’t see it.

The Way You Should Address Things

Another thing, when you’re dealing with someone with anxiety when you message them. Add context. Like ‘I need to ask you a question, I need to know your shoe size.’ Or ‘call me, I need to know when you can deliver the cookies.’ Just having one-liners and no context will send the person to anxiety. Like for instance, when I made a post in a group on Facebook and the admin tagged me in a post and just said ‘message me,’ but provided no context put so many red flags in my head. I know this is off topic, but I feel it’s a similar aspect. On the autism side, I will rather be addressed in a calming matter. On the anxiety side, you need to provide context on some things.

Something I want to quickly address before I close this blog

Also, I want to let you know that my blogs may have a few grammatical mistakes. I use Grammarly, but I do not have money for the pro version, which picks up more mistakes. I do not know someone who can proofread nor do I have the money to pay someone to proofread. So there is not much I can do until I can save up enough money on my Steemit Blog to pay for Grammarly Pro. It will take a REALLY long time because I only get 3-4 cents a post. It’s rough when you are a poor blogger, people never understand. I thought I address this to avoid 100 people pointing out grammatical mistakes etc. Matter of fact the money I make can go towards improving my blog like to fund Grammarly Pro

To close The Blog

I thought I pick 2 cases where being shot down right off the bat does not help me. Instead of properly addressing the situation. The autism blogs I made thus far. Autism And Unemployment Pt 1My Struggles With Autism,  

I have written a blog about how we struggle with getting and keeping jobs. For information on my book, click here. If you want to, purchase the book here.

I will make more autism blogs in the near future.

5 Reasons Why I Hate Being Autistic

I have struggled with ASD ( Autism Spectrum Disorder) this is what its called now, they don’t call it Asperger’s anymore, it goes by a spectrum. And I wanna be honest that I HATE being autistic with a capital H.

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I did the autism now tag if you wanna check out the video, here you go.

This tag has some questions that you answer as honestly as possible. I went on a rant at the end about hating being autistic at the last question, though I share this video as this is where it started.

I, I just wanna be regular. I don’t like being autistic, I wish I never had it. I feel trapped dealing with it. I don’t understand some jokes, I don’t understand sarcasm from seriousness. What’s to like about feeling different from others?

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So let’s get on to it. The first reason I hate is, autistic people are treated poorly. Believe it or not, we are treated badly. I saw an article in my feed where these bullies nailed a board into the head of an autistic kid, I don’t wanna link it in case it triggers some people, but that article is another reason why I am writing this/made this video. All autism is, it affects social skills, the way we communicate, affects our ability to detect social cues, were wired differently but that can make us good at stuff,( like some people with autism are good a music, art, computers etc)  and people think we’re convicted murderers and treat us so badly. You are a scum of the earth if you treat anyone with a disability, not just autistic people, like crap. I also saw an article of an autistic kid who died on a bus, he was non-verbal. It was on the bus driver for not checking the bus at the last stop, because drivers are required to check for sleeping kids. The driver could have been aware and used this to his/her advantage. Here is the video if you’re interested. This is the video on why I hate being autistic.

The next item on the list, this is a titanic-sized problem, but offending people unintentionally I explained this in the My Struggles With Autism video

In this video, I explain the offending people, it goes like this. Individuals with autism lack the ability to detect social cues, problems with communicating, and what’s OK to say or not. So it’s far more complicated than you’re stupid, you’re ugly insults. But something along the lines of what personally offends them, and I will not know until after it’s been said. And I feel like an asshole. One instance is, you know how Facebook has that “on this day” feature where it will remind you of something you posted? I shared a post, educating that autism doesn’t have a look, it had a collage of people who were autistic, and the message was, you cannot look and tell someone is autistic, and this guy got offended by the post. People act as though I am a mind reader and can automatically tell what will upset or offend them. The point is I had no intentions to offend them, my initial intentions were to spread some education that not everything has a look, you cannot see everything. Why do you think doctors may order tests if they suspect something is wrong with you? Because they cannot see it with the naked eye! My intentions are always to give advice, reach out, help someone etc and it explodes in my face because it upset them rather than helped.

The next thing is lack of understanding, now some people just don’t understand autism is different in everyone. Like I am trying to get disability, and my mom says there are people who are high functioning autism that work. But she doesn’t know the full story. Maybe their area had a job that was right for them, or the employer was understanding and created a position just for them. Or they were able to find a job related to whatever they’re skilled in. My new therapist, I am picking up vibes that tell me he doesn’t think my ability to work is affected, and it is. Just because I am not in a wheelchair, missing a limb, doesn’t mean anything. For instance, I cannot handle change, if I am told ahead of time, yes, but if its immediately when the change is put into place, and there is no time to process the changes, it can cause problems. ASD individuals like routine and I went off when something changed at school, the school can’t kick me out for that, but a job can fire me. I have done things at school, but the teachers couldn’t suspend me from school, where a boss can fire me.

Difficulty Understanding Things, I also explained this in My Struggles With Autism, that you can explain something to me, and it will be hard for me to understand. For instance, someone watched an older video on my vlog channel, he said to upgrade my mic, that the audio was “unclear” I had no clue what that meant and asked him to elaborate, and he never replied. With me, that won’t cut it, so if you feel I should add something to my thumbnails, for instance, you need to SHOW me, just telling me isn’t enough for me to get it. And on Facebook group chat, someone belittled me and call me names because I couldn’t understand something that happened. I blocked the person, not a single soul defended me, everyone just sat there watched me get bullied. This is why we have so many suicides, no one has the guts to defend someone being bullied. You can protest something you believe is not right but not stick up for someone being bullied? Remember what Dr. Phil said, ” If you see someone being bullied and you do nothing, you’re just as guilty as the bully” When I removed the person bullying me, my so-called friend said “wow, she was entertaining,” my so-called friend thinks bullying someone with a disability is “entertaining.” SMH. You just have to explain it to where I can understand, so if you’re showing my a skin cream for instance. Follow your explanation with ‘it’s like lotion but for your face.’

The last one is unable to find work, this shouldn’t be a surprise, but the unemployment for autistic people is high, I believe because some cannot find a job that’s right for them. I explained this in Autism And Unemployment. I will upload part 2.

In this video, I explained how hard it is to find a job with the settings that I require. I have put in applications to the places I felt had at least a few of these settings, and I didn’t hear back, so probably no one is gonna hire me with no experience. Or if my skills and work experience(which is none) isn’t relevant to the job, Eg you’re a computer expert applying to stock shelves. Some ASD people have trouble holding down jobs, my guess is the employer lost his/her composure and fired the person, I was in a group for autistics and a guy said his job fired him because he was autistic, one said their employer made a snarky comment about autistic people, so maybe they were sick of being mistreated because of a disability they didn’t ask for and quit. So I am working to become self-employed by trying to become a full-time blogger. At the moment, I have no money to buy the business version of WordPress, so my option is to put affiliate links in my blog or my photography store. I am also going to get into Freelance work, I joined Fiverr. I will add more services as I go along.  I am going to get into Freelance Art, Blogging and Video Editing. I feel it’s best for autistic individuals to get jobs related to what they’re skilled in. I feel you’ll be happier, perform better, and get treated better.

I don’t like anything about being autistic, I hate it, I wish I never had it. There is nothing to like about being treated like shit over something you didn’t ask for, nothing to like about having trouble understanding things, nothing to like about offending people with no intentions and looking like an asshole. I see nothing likable about that. But Aaliyah, autism makes you unique. What’s unique about being a social outcast because my disorder hinders my ability to detect social cues? I feel my talents aren’t tied to autism-like I used to be in the band, I was a pretty good musician when I was in Jr. High, that was way before I found out I was autistic. I just found my callings.

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6 Common Signs Of Autism

Autism can be easily misdiagnosed with ADHD, so I picked 6 signs that I believe are not

associated with ADHD, autism has a lot of signs, but I picked 6 so the video/blog won’t be too long. I was diagnosed with ADHD and my mom had a gut feeling I had more than ADHD, and a social worker I saw before she left confirmed this.

Remember that different individuals will have different signs, but I picked the ones that I feel are the most common.

5 common autism sings

1) Takes Things Literally
This is a huge one. An autistic individual will take certain phrases literally, take the phrase “kick the bucket” say you post on Facebook your grandpa kicked the bucket, a non-autistic will know you mean your grandpa passed away, but an autistic person will think your grandpa actually kicked a bucket. And this can cause problems, like with Facebook’s new like system, they may give your post a laugh re-act because they think kicking things is funny, but they will not know kick the bucket means someone died. So If possible, I would avoid phrases like that. I also have this problem. My mom said I saw a movie 100 times and I thought she did a head count each time I saw the movie, and she meant figuratively, I saw said movie 100 times. This can make seeking employment difficult, if the person makes it to the interview, they may take the questions too literally.

2) Stimming
This can vary. It can be tapping a pen. flapping your hands, playing with a toy, tapping your foot. Now an individual may stim if they’re anxious, and the stimming helps, like if taking a test makes them nervous, then stimming calms the nerves. This can annoy a non-autistic, making it hard for someone to do what eases their nerves. My mom gets annoyed when I stim and she has the same thing as me. She makes me feel bad about it like damn, sometimes I can control it, sometimes I can’t. I didn’t ask for this. I didn’t want this. You really think I want to be like this? I don’t need you making me feel worse. If someone has a disorder, and they have traits with said disorder, they cannot control it. That’s like trying to tell God where to make it rain. It doesn’t work like that and can’t happen because you command it.

3) Difficulty Processing Information
If you watched my video “My Struggles With Autism” in that video, I mentioned this and used explaining the weather as an example. You can explain someone to someone with autism, and they will get extremely confused by your explanation, they will have difficulty processing what you’re saying, difficulty understanding what’s going on around them. This can be dangerous because someone can use this to their advantage. They are hearing you and listening, but they’re having difficulty processing and understanding it. So you may have to explain it in a way they can get it. Do not insult them, its not their fault they have autism like no one asks for this stuff. Provide examples, show them a video or picture if you can. You just need to provide more context. Instead of just saying ‘get me some coffee,’ say ‘get me some coffee, I want a frappe’

4) Not Understanding Jokes/Sarcasm
It will be hard for someone with autism to know sarcasm from seriousness. Depending on how you put it. It will be hard for the person to know if you’re serious or joking. You can say ” I laughed so hard I pissed myself” a non- autistic will know you’re joking and that you didn’t really wet your pants, but an autistic person will think you pissed yourself. Another instance is my friend said no one wanted to hear his voice because they’d piss themselves. He probably meant figuratively, but I thought people actually pissed their pants when they heard his voice. There can be a lot of cases. There were times where I took people too literally and they replied they were being sarcastic. They can take autism jokes too seriously. No one likes seeing a disorder they struggle with turned into a meme. The person may not know it’s meant to be a joke.

5) Not Understanding social cues
This is a big one, someone with autism will have difficulty reading social cues, for instance, you can show that you don’t want to talk anymore. The person will NOT read that you’re done talking. I like to be social, my mom makes me feel bad about it so I don’t talk to anyone anymore. Sometimes being different is hard and I feel my life would be better if I was normal. If I were to get a job that required social skills, 9/10 I’d be fired since my disorder hinders my social abilities. You can talk to someone about a movie you saw, the person you’re talking to can show they have no interest in the movie. Because autism hinders your social ability, you will not pick up and not know to ask the person what movies they like.

6) Gets upset over changes
Autistic individuals will get upset over changes. And it will be hard for them to immediately adapt to it because we like sticking to a routine, and when something changes, it’s not gonna be pretty. This can make it hard for us to hold down jobs if something changes and the person flips out. When I was on high school, we had a class called seminar, where you get help with homework, after the announcements, we were able to move, then my sophomore year, they changed it and I went nuclear( I even inserted a nuclear bomb explosion in the video, assuming Cushie Tube, I mean YouTube, won’t flag the video). And I didn’t even have time to process the changes vs if I was told before school got out. So basically if somethings changing the person need to be told in advance. My mom used to understand this. Now she doesn’t and says ‘I have to adjust.’ How can you expect me to adjust if I have no time to process the changes?!

If you know any other signs that are common, tell me in the comments down below. Here is the video if you wanna take a look.

If you want a part 2, just tell me in the comments. I also wrote a book to showcase our struggles with getting and keeping jobs. It’s about time people learned that what’s easy for neurotypicals can be difficult for us. Get your copy here.

Things Not To Say To Someone With Autism

There are some things you should not say to someone with autism. Sometimes we mean well, but this can actually do more harm than good. Not all autistic people are the same.things not to say to someone with autism
Anyways this is a post on things you do not say to someone with autism. These are 4 some things that I came up with. I feel some of these are common, as autism is misunderstood and overlooked.

“You don’t look autistic”
My friend actually said this when I told her I was autistic, why does everyone think autism has a look? If you google people with autism, they will look like regular folks, right? Autism is not like Down Syndrome for the love of God. Not everything has a look for crying out loud! Let me ask you a question, what is autism suppose to look like? Are we suppose to have a mole? Think about it. What do you expect an autistic person to look like? It’s a disability that cannot be seen with a naked eye. Now it can be seen in an MRI unless you oddly have a scanner of some sort in your brain, you have no business saying this.

“you’re not autistic because of *insert reason here*”
You may not be familiar with this reason but I added it to get a message across. When I went through a process that I thought would help me find a job, they helped people with disabilities with employment. It was unclear as to what disabilities they work with. A counselor told me that I was not autistic because of how I talk. I can’t tell if she is that stupid or not good at her job. Just because someone doesn’t do something with their autism, that doesn’t mean they are not autistic. You wouldn’t tell a diabetic that they don’t have diabetes because they don’t have to take insulin. As not all diabetics take insulin. So not all autistic may do this or that. Autism can manifest in many ways. Not everyone will have the same struggles. Autism does not affect your intelligence, it just affects how you learn and how you see things. For example, the person may learn better if they can see the action rather than you talking. Or that can filter information given in chunks. Or you may have to send them an email in chunks rather than a long ass one. It just has to be modified for the person. You may have to use terms they understand. If the person is good with computers, use computer terms to help them understand. But this is often assumed, that if the person is smart, they’re not autistic. This is not true.

“Everyone is a little autistic”
I honestly don’t know what gives people this idea. What makes you think everyone has a little autism in them? Non-autistics may have autism like struggles, but for us, we have it all the time, not just here and there. A non-autistic may have trouble understanding something, but autistics just cannot understand the world. It’s like going to another country and not knowing that country’s language.

“my cousin has autism and he doesn’t do what you do”
Again, autism is different for everyone. You can be affected in many ways. Autism causes me to offend people, that may not be the case for the next guy, or this guy. I may not be aware of certain actions, others maybe. Have you ever thought your cousin is on a different part of the spectrum? Yes, autism has a spectrum. Everyone is different. You can’t expect every autistic person of the planet to be the same! This is like expecting every kid to wear the same size shoes!

“you’re using your autism as an excuse”
Have you ever tried to explain to someone that a setting is too loud for you, due to your autism and they play the excuse card? Just because you don’t want to understand the person’s struggle doesn’t mean they are making excuses. I am so sick of hearing this I do not know what to do. If someone with insomnia told you it takes them forever to fall asleep, and it causes them to still be sleepy/tired the next morning, would you tell them that just want an excuse to sleep in? No! They are just telling you the traits associated with their autism. A disorder has more than one trait you know.

‘You Must be good at math’

This is where I have to stop you. I was horrible at math, it was so hard and confusing. I was lucky to pass with a D. Some will be good at computers, some numbers etc. I would like it if you asked me what I am good at rather than just reckoning I am good at math or this.

I have a video about this on my vlog channel.

I have other autism blogs, feel free to check them out.